ON: A Pandemic of Cruelty: A Very Important Article by Dennis Prager – You may be Experiencing this Cruelty in Your own Family

PART 2

I had no contact with Mom for at least 10 yrs although she only lived about 12 miles away. Dad had remarried & I had as well & divorced. I would have to pass Mom’s house to get to Dad’s. They lived about 2miles apart.

Then lately I would get kind of a spiritual nudge to stop (don’t ignore those) as I passed by & visit her but I ignored it because I never felt welcome. Anyway the nudging kept persisting, so I pulled into her driveway 1 evening & knocked on her door. Immediately her “killer” German Shep went nuts inside. I knew she had a gun too cuz everybody, she thought was out to get her. In time she peeped thru the reveal hole in the door & wanted to know who it was & I introduced myself as “her oldest son”. Slowly, cautiously the door cracked opened & I was invited in after the mutt was put away & I got a thorough visual inspection. U’d think I was selling magazines door to door or worse. Anyway we had a verbal non-threatening conversation & it did touch on the Lord. I was encouraged somewhat but I sensed her coldness.

I decided to leave & I gave her my ph#. That was my last visit with her. My last ph conversation with her evolved into me being the enemy again just like “all the rest of us men”. Mentally I threw up my hands at any chance of reconciliation. I felt a load off my shoulders. Any guilt or wondering how I messed it all up disappeared in an instant. I gave the Lord credit for that as well. I had tried & obeyed God to try 1 more time.

Not long after that conversation she had a stroke & lay on her hallway floor for a few days b4 anyone checked on her & called the police to get in there.

They ambulanced her to the hospital but she died sometime afterwards. My brother had been assigned executor of her will & she made him promise not to tell me anything until after she died. I was still persona non grata. My bro told me later that prior to her stroke she had cut me out of her will but at the last minute put me back in which had to be the Lord working. I didn’t know about any of those things.

She was a Christian so even we can hate to the max for no reason..that’s a scary thought to harbor that kind of devilish stuff & still praise the Lord too.
I guess there’s more to tell but this is enough except I still don’t know why she hated so much. Maybe some of you have “been there, done that”. Jesus is your & my answer to that situation.

My pt in all this is just to say if u know Jesus as your Savior & Lord, He has promised to NEVER leave us or forsake us. That’s a HUGE comfort even amidst the ones u feel close to when they make u the enemy. Once you are saved Jesus will NEVER be your enemy…ur his adopted son…forever & u have a new forever, eternal family who love u just like Jesus. That’s the bestest family everyone desires the mostest & u only get it from Jesus.

The hymn, “What a friend we have in Jesus..” is the greatest understatement of all time. If ur not familiar with that hymn, Google it & find some comfort in the words. Then get yourself saved! Join the family of God!

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A Pandemic of Cruelty: A Very Important Article by Dennis Prager – You may be Experiencing this Cruelty in Your own Family

I learned to ignore my mother while still honoring her as such. I didn’t hate her or hold a grudge but she was very vindictive & u could easily become the enemy with just a word. I became the enemy but it was never clear, why. No one really knew what the source of her problems were so I learned to avoid her because any attempt at a normal relationship would bring out the hate thing which was tiresome, nonproductive & if u didn’t agree with her then U would be the enemy as well.

 Many times I wished I could have had the normal mom/son relationship but it was always a minefield not worth trespassing. I had better relations with my 2 step moms. However, I do think she’s in heaven & all things will be anew as they should be…so I look forward to that day.

 It’s important to fix things in family as they come up in this life but all need to be reconcilable to that end with Jesus as our Counselor. Anyway that’s my 2 cents worth of life’s learning process. I learned thru Eph 4:30-32 to not let anger & bitterness get hold of my heart. It can be consuming & damage everyone around us including our relationship with Christ.