College Campuses, Your Kids, and the Gospel


Recently, I wrote a piece about my granddaughter. My son (her dad) decided that he doesn’t believe the things about Jesus anymore. In the article I shared my heart ache that my son is not teaching my granddaughter anything about the Lord, and that he and his wife do not want me sending anything to her about Jesus – no Bible – nothing about Him.

I received so many wonderful emails from the readers of the piece. Many told me that they would pray about the situation.  Many others told me that they were going through the same thing.  I read heart breaking stories and I am praying for these brothers and sisters.

In this article I want to tell the readers more about my son, and what precipitated his falling away.  When my son was 14, he told me that he wanted me to lead him in prayer to the Lord. He told me that he knew that he was a sinner and needed Jesus so badly.  We talked for a long time, and I realized that he was truly repentant and was ready to be born again. We prayed and then the next Sunday he went to our pastor and told him what he had done, and that he wanted to be baptized.

I had never seen anyone so on fire for the Lord. He began to study the Scriptures daily. Every night before going to bed, he would read his Bible. He collected and read books by the great theologians.  He would even talk with pastor about the Lord. He shared the Gospel every chance he could. This boy was an inspiration to me.

Remember “Meet you at the pole?”  Christian kids would meet on a special day very early before classes to pray for their high school. He came home and told me that he was the only one there – but he didn’t care. He wanted the Lord to be proud of him.

When he was 17, one day he came to me and said that he felt that the Lord might be calling him to preach. I told him that I would be praying that he would hear the Lord clearly. I was amazed and so grateful to Jesus.


My son decided to attend a college not far from home. I noticed during his first year that he seemed to be changing. He was questioning the Word – asking why God would do this and that. I told him that God always had His reasons for doing anything, and that His ways are so much higher than ours. I told him that God is sovereign and that we must trust all that He does.

I could feel that he was falling away. I prayed and prayed. I asked God to help him through this time of questioning. But things got worse and the communication between the two of us was beginning to diminish.


After college, my son got a job in a physics lab not far from our home. There he met his bride to be.   She had been brought up without Jesus and was an ardent atheist.  A few years later they married.  I never stopped praying. I was crushed, but the Lord reminded me that He was in control, and that nothing was too difficult for Him.

The Confession

While I was on Facebook one day, I received a friend request from someone I did not know.  I looked at his page and nothing looked familiar. I wrote a message to him and asked how he knew me. He wrote back and told me that he went to college with my son – that they were in the physics program together. He said that he had some things that he had wanted to tell me for a long time, and wanted to ask my forgiveness.

This young man poured out his heart to me. He said that when my son had come to the college, he was a strong Christian. He said that the kids belittled him every chance they could, and that he was among them.

He also told me that the professors on campus were mostly atheists, and that they did everything possible to make Christian students feel small and stupid.  He said that he watched my son change – that he became a different person.  He told me that he felt responsible because they were good friends.

It seems that this young man had taken Hebrew and Greek – one from a rabbi and the other from a professor.  This created a burning in his heart to study the Bible.  He said he was not saying that he was looking to be a Christian, it was just that he was brought up in an atheist environment, and he began to wonder about things. He wondered if the things within my son, when he first met him, could be true. He was/is seeking.

I am still Facebook friends with this man. He married an unbeliever, and from what I can see, he is still floundering – but only the Lord knows what is going on in his heart. I continue to pray for him.

Parents beware

I have been reading article after article about college campuses and how they undo everything we have cultivated in our children.  I began to beat myself up that we did not insist that our son go to a Christian college.  I have heard that there are still some very liberal professors there, but I still think that it would have been a totally different environment and experience for my son.

When I think – we sent our son to the lions – not intentionally of course, ignorantly, I become so sad.  I am writing this piece to warn any parents who have teens who are looking at different colleges.  I hope that many are reading this piece, and I hope that they are taking these words to heart.

I received an email after that last article, and the person said that their child (in college) voted for Bernie Sanders!  She was so distraught.  She said that she didn’t realize what an effect the secular college would have on her child.

Brethren, we are in this world, but we are not of it.  We should come out and be separate, when it comes to something that will have a dramatic impact on our children. All those years, teaching them about Jesus and what He did for us – and then sending them into a culture of atheism.  It still makes me cry.

 I have given them thy word; and the world hath hated them, because they are not of the world, even as I am not of the world. I pray not that thou shouldest take them out of the world, but that thou shouldest keep them from the evil” (John 17: 14-15).




9 thoughts on “College Campuses, Your Kids, and the Gospel

  1. Pingback: College Campuses, Your Kids, and the Gospel – Absolute Truth from the Word of God | ddnnews

  2. Dear Geri, your story about your son greatly toughed me.
    It reminds me so much about the raising of our children. About 25 years ago when
    Our second daughter, wanted to go on to tertiary education after attending a Christian collage. We offered to send her to Dort Collage a Christian collage in Souiscentre Iowa. She wanted to go, she married a Christian man from Iowa, they have Five children. They have now returned with the whole Family to our farm in Western Australia.
    We share every thing and help with the raising of their Five children’s home schooling. I just wanted to tell you this story to confirm that it would have been your best choice to send your son to a non secular collage, preferably a Christian collage, of whom there are still many in your country.
    Wilhelmus Heggers Bridgetown Western Australia.


  3. snappyj123

    I am one of those who knows exactly how you feel, Geri. I brought my daughter up to kno wthe Lord and she knew the Bible so well, she could tell you where to find answers to everything. Until she went to college and I knew from the first week that something was wrong. If I had just refused to pay anymore unless she went to a Christian college. But I thought it was just a phase. She told me how various teachers told them how sorry they were to hear some of them were forced by their parents to endure Christian school. They were belittled and looked to others for affirmation. Now my daughter is deep into homosexuality, our relationship is destroyed and my daughter will not discuss God. I feel like she is a stranger and she treats me like I am her worst enemy. It breaks y heart and I know how you feel, blaming yourself. I don’t even know what to do. I have prayed and prayed, but I had other homosexuals in my family line and none of them ever came out of them and every family that was touched by it were torn apart, never to be the same. I was so close to my daughter and I honestly feel like the little girl I so treasured died the day she walked into the University of Central Florida. Please, parents who read this, don’t send your kids to these pits of hell. I honestly would rather see a child not get a college education than to go through this destruction of their minds. At his college my daughter went to, you have to take a required course in diversity or feminism and you cannot graduate without it. That class was the beginning of the Satanic control of my child. It’s not worth it.


  4. Geri, I’m so sorry that this has happened. Remember God’s promise in Proverbs 22:6 – “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.” I pray that these words will bring you comfort and that they will ring true in the life of your son.

    Also, with regards to sending kids to Christian colleges, I’ve seen studies that show most of the professors there are just the same as those in non-Christian schools. There really doesn’t seem to be a safe haven in education for children anymore outside of homeschooling, but even with that foundation a college “experience” could rip it all away. I commend those who can survive college with their faith in tact. That would be a terribly difficult thing to do in this day and age.


  5. Geri….I pledge to pray for you, son and granddaughter. I can only imagine how difficult it must be. While the situation may look hopeless now….it’s time to have faith in the plan God has for there lives. Even if we can’t see it. Remain unwavering in your faith and be all about love….as God taught us. This may seem an impossible situation now but we serve a God of the impossible. If life has taught me one thing……it’s that nothing stays the same forever. I was 70 years old before Jesus convinced me of my need for a savior. One day you will wake up and see that God has worked a huge act of the miraculous. Don’t waver or beat yourself up over this…….God has it all in control. Love the quote Prov. 22:6 …………Those who wait upon the Lord will renew their strength.


  6. Sometimes even if you do everything you can do, Satan still desires to sift that young person. God allows it so that the child as a young adult, is allowed to see for themselves their own need of a savior in a way that they can not understand it just from being told. I speak as one of those young people, (now fifty-one) who loved the Lord with all my heart even in a family of nominal Christians, and for ten years of my early adulthood I walked away from all of it. God knew I needed to discover my own depravity and then I could finally truly make that Christian faith my own. I have heard many stories of this kind of heart-ache where the parents never heard from their child again, and even some whom, the child passed away before the parent, and then someone came to the parent later and told them that the child had a change of heart in their final years or months, and repented. I understand that you are hurting now, but don’t give up hope. I think that is exactly what that verse means that says that if you bring them up in the way they should go, and when he is OLD he will not depart from it. That to me leaves room for “wasted youth, but saved soul” in the end, if you think about it. I know that ten years of my life will definitely burn up in the refiners fire when it is tested, and I will suffer shame and regret for that, but God is the one who keeps us, not we ourselves.

    I dissuaded my kids from college for this reason, however also to avoid the debt of financial aid loans One graduated 2 years ago, and is in the Army. The tales of discrimination against the rights of Christian soldiers there are bad too. I think it is the dark and late hour we live in, nothing we do can shield and shelter them forever. They are going to encounter the world, and fall prey to their own sinful flesh and Satan’s schemes but then God brings them back, and they then know how to warn others not based on “rote memory” but personal knowledge from having lived through it. Trust the Lord. When we pray for the soul of another person, for their salvation, we absolutely know this is within God’s will and He promises us that when we pray according to His will, we can know we have what we have prayed for. Some people would argue that free will precludes this, but all of our will exists within His, in other words, He has to sign off on it. I grew up in a Calvinist tradition, and having read my Bible and studied it, I also know that we do make choices, so when people say, “well then, which is it? Free will or election/predestination” my answer is “it is both”. What seems “mutually exclusive” to us, is no limit on God. Don’t stop believing that God will bring him back to Himself. God isn’t like a bad parent who lets their own child wander out beyond the yard and into the street. He never loses sight of any of His lambs not even for a second. He is never distracted, and He is able to let them go just so far and put an end to their straying at the very last possible moment. Satan can’t take back from God those Christ bought with His blood.

    My other son will graduate in a few months, and he plans to also go into the Army, but the officer route, and reserves, thus college also will be part of his career plan. How they turn out is not entirely up to us. We are not capable of being the only influence that touches them. You have done all you could do proactively and prayer is the best thing you can do now. We underestimate the power of our prayers, and I think God gives particular heed to the prayers of those who love us most! You are an inspiration with your blog and your articles on Rapture Ready, and we are all in this together as a Body. Your faith is in the Lord and the Lord is trustworthy. So keep trusting.

    The one who is already in the army now has four tattoos, smokes, and other things that are not “how we raised him”, and as a “free agent” those choices are his to make, and the consequences will be his to endure. As others have said, just be ready for the day your son hits the wall because Satan is going to torment him, but God’s allowing this will result in him coming to understand what he has turned his back on. You can read my story at my blog from the dropdowns at the top menu, under the heading “Purple Morning Glories and Gold Lady Bugs”. That title sounds frivolous, but it is actually a testament to God’s amazing longsuffering and grace and mercy, and His caring so personally and individually about me that He pursued me even as I strayed, and was always there, waiting for me to turn back to Him. When you can’t figure out what God is up to, just trust His heart.


  7. Your prayers will be answered God still has a plan for your son. Everything happens for a reason. Just because we as humans give up sometimes we need to remember God will never ever give up on us! His love always endures and sometimes the words that are worth the most are found down the darkest paths underneath the biggest stones. We can never think of someone as completely lost while there is life there is still hope its also good to remember even though someone is moving in the wrong direction, God still has the opportunity to turn them around.


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