Recently, I wrote a piece about my granddaughter. My son (her dad) decided that he doesn’t believe the things about Jesus anymore. In the article I shared my heart ache that my son is not teaching my granddaughter anything about the Lord, and that he and his wife do not want me sending anything to her about Jesus – no Bible – nothing about Him.
I received so many wonderful emails from the readers of the piece. Many told me that they would pray about the situation. Many others told me that they were going through the same thing. I read heart breaking stories and I am praying for these brothers and sisters.
In this article I want to tell the readers more about my son, and what precipitated his falling away. When my son was 14, he told me that he wanted me to lead him in prayer to the Lord. He told me that he knew that he was a sinner and needed Jesus so badly. We talked for a long time, and I realized that he was truly repentant and was ready to be born again. We prayed and then the next Sunday he went to our pastor and told him what he had done, and that he wanted to be baptized.
I had never seen anyone so on fire for the Lord. He began to study the Scriptures daily. Every night before going to bed, he would read his Bible. He collected and read books by the great theologians. He would even talk with pastor about the Lord. He shared the Gospel every chance he could. This boy was an inspiration to me.
Remember “Meet you at the pole?” Christian kids would meet on a special day very early before classes to pray for their high school. He came home and told me that he was the only one there – but he didn’t care. He wanted the Lord to be proud of him.
When he was 17, one day he came to me and said that he felt that the Lord might be calling him to preach. I told him that I would be praying that he would hear the Lord clearly. I was amazed and so grateful to Jesus.
My son decided to attend a college not far from home. I noticed during his first year that he seemed to be changing. He was questioning the Word – asking why God would do this and that. I told him that God always had His reasons for doing anything, and that His ways are so much higher than ours. I told him that God is sovereign and that we must trust all that He does.
I could feel that he was falling away. I prayed and prayed. I asked God to help him through this time of questioning. But things got worse and the communication between the two of us was beginning to diminish.
After college, my son got a job in a physics lab not far from our home. There he met his bride to be. She had been brought up without Jesus and was an ardent atheist. A few years later they married. I never stopped praying. I was crushed, but the Lord reminded me that He was in control, and that nothing was too difficult for Him.
While I was on Facebook one day, I received a friend request from someone I did not know. I looked at his page and nothing looked familiar. I wrote a message to him and asked how he knew me. He wrote back and told me that he went to college with my son – that they were in the physics program together. He said that he had some things that he had wanted to tell me for a long time, and wanted to ask my forgiveness.
This young man poured out his heart to me. He said that when my son had come to the college, he was a strong Christian. He said that the kids belittled him every chance they could, and that he was among them.
He also told me that the professors on campus were mostly atheists, and that they did everything possible to make Christian students feel small and stupid. He said that he watched my son change – that he became a different person. He told me that he felt responsible because they were good friends.
It seems that this young man had taken Hebrew and Greek – one from a rabbi and the other from a professor. This created a burning in his heart to study the Bible. He said he was not saying that he was looking to be a Christian, it was just that he was brought up in an atheist environment, and he began to wonder about things. He wondered if the things within my son, when he first met him, could be true. He was/is seeking.
I am still Facebook friends with this man. He married an unbeliever, and from what I can see, he is still floundering – but only the Lord knows what is going on in his heart. I continue to pray for him.
I have been reading article after article about college campuses and how they undo everything we have cultivated in our children. I began to beat myself up that we did not insist that our son go to a Christian college. I have heard that there are still some very liberal professors there, but I still think that it would have been a totally different environment and experience for my son.
When I think – we sent our son to the lions – not intentionally of course, ignorantly, I become so sad. I am writing this piece to warn any parents who have teens who are looking at different colleges. I hope that many are reading this piece, and I hope that they are taking these words to heart.
I received an email after that last article, and the person said that their child (in college) voted for Bernie Sanders! She was so distraught. She said that she didn’t realize what an effect the secular college would have on her child.
Brethren, we are in this world, but we are not of it. We should come out and be separate, when it comes to something that will have a dramatic impact on our children. All those years, teaching them about Jesus and what He did for us – and then sending them into a culture of atheism. It still makes me cry.
“I have given them thy word; and the world hath hated them, because they are not of the world, even as I am not of the world. I pray not that thou shouldest take them out of the world, but that thou shouldest keep them from the evil” (John 17: 14-15).